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128- AND IF A WOMAN FEARS DESERTION OR AVOIDANCE ON HER HUSBAND’S PART, THERE IS NOT BLAME ON THOSE WHO TRY TO MAKE PEACE BETWEEN THEM, FOR RECONCILIATION IS GOOD, AND THE GREEDY SOULS WILL BE PRESENT.  BUT IF YOU DO GOOD, ARE CHARITABLE, AND PIOUS, ALLAH HAS FULL KNOWLEDGE OF ALL YOU DO. 

This Ayah is about avoiding divorce. 

If a woman feels that her husband is or may desert or avoid her, then reconciliation should be sought.  This should be done long before getting to the point of divorce which Allah the Highest permits, even though He hates.  Allah’s messenger prayer and peace upon him said: “Allah did not permit any thing which he hates more than divorce”.  (D: Talaq; 3)

Therefore, once the marriage is unhappy, both man and wife should act to make amends.  If they can not sort out their difficulties themselves, then they should seek the help of others they trust, one from the wife’s and one from the husband’s families.  Allah the Highest said: “AND IF YOU FEAR THAT THERE WILL BE A BREAK UP BETWEEN THEM, THEN YOU APPOINT AN ARBITRATOR FROM HIS FAMILY AND AN ARBITRATOR FROM HER FAMILY.  IF THEY SEEK RECONCILIATION, ALLAH WILL CAUSE THEIR RECONCILIATION, AND ALLAH HAS FULL KNOWLEDGE OF EVERY THING AND IN COMMAND OF EVERY THING”. (S: 4 A: 35)

Reconciliation is good for the husband, wife, their children and families.  However, Allah the Highest is warning us that at these times there will be greed about, which we should watch out for.  The greed on the part of the husband, and the greed on the part of the wife, as well as the greed on the part of other parties, to take advantage of the situation.  This is time for this greed to be expressed and seen.

The relationship between man and wife should always be based on compassion, mercy, affection and generosity as well as care for each other.  To make an unjust or unfair settlement, does not help the marriage to continue happily and amicably.  Each side should try to be just and fair to the other, if they wish to have a happy marriage. 

Allah the Highest did not leave us without laws and rules concerning marriage; and they should be observed.  Not observing Allah’s rules is unjust “THESE ARE ALLAH’S LIMITS; DO NOT TRANSGRESS THEM, FOR THOSE WHO TRANSGRESS ALLAH’S LIMITS ARE THE UNJUST”.  (S: 2 A: 229)

Indeed, being unjust and unfair to some one is being unjust to one’s own self and one’s own soul.  Allah the Highest said: “AND HE, WHO TRANSGRESSES OVER ALLAH’S LIMITS, HE HAS BEEN UNJUST TO HIS OWN SELF”.  (S: 65 A: 1)

Allah the Highest is Just and hates injustice, and punishes the unjust, He said: “AND WHOEVER IS UNJUST OF YOU, WE WILL PUNISH HIM GREAT PUNISHMENT”.  (S: 25 A: 19)

With fair and just reconciliation, every one is gaining.  With unfair and unjust settlement every one is losing.

B: Bukhari    M: Muslim     Mal: Malek    A: Ahmed   D: Abu Dawood     

Da: Daremy       Ma: Ibn Magah            N: Nesae          T: Termezi